![]() Get busier, go out with friends, take up a painting class, go do some fun things. In essence, be a sparkly diamond, the best you. Step 2: Focus on being the best, brightest, most positive version of yourself. I want your partner to have a break from the pain and reconnect with the idea that life will get back to normal again. Get your thoughts out and seek some individual support for yourself. You can write all of your thoughts in a journal or in an online forum instead. This is going to be very hard, but stop for a little while. Step 1: Stop talking about the affair and the pain and the hurt. We are going to talk about exactly how to do this now. Detaching does not mean you do not love someone, it means you are choosing to protect yourself when someone else is making hurtful, selfish choices. You are allowed to detach from a painful situation and set a boundary when someone is behaving in hurtful ways. ![]() They need to act in ways to earn that gift, they don’t just get the gift for showing up and acting poorly.Ī core component of the Diamond Strategy is detachment. If your partner has been having an affair and is having trouble breaking it off, we need to remind them that you and your relationship are a rare gift, not something ordinary. There's no one just like you, and your partner is lucky to have you. So if this is true, and we want your partner to be more into you (and more motivated to do things to heal you and the relationship), then you need to show them you are rare, valuable, and precious (like a diamond!). My feeling is that people want things that are rare, valuable, exclusive, and precious. Why do you think people like diamonds? Is it because they're sparkly and pretty, or is it really because they're rare and represent something valuable? Do you think people value what they can have all the time for free? Or do they value something that is not easy to get and requires effort to attain? I told Amy about the Diamond Strategy, and if you’re in a similar situation, I recommend it for you too.īefore I explain the Diamond Strategy, let me ask you a couple of questions. ![]() Amy was devastated and wanted to know what to do next. Amy tried to give him the benefit of the doubt, but when they got home, she found out that her husband was still talking to his girlfriend.Īmy was doing everything she could to try to heal the relationship, but her husband was becoming more distant, cold, and mean to her. ![]() It seemed like he was trying to reconnect with her, but not very much.Īmy noticed that her husband would go on long walks by himself, had his phone locked a lot of the time, and was texting in the middle of the night. The vacation was okay, but she felt like her husband was only somewhat present. Let me tell you Amy’s story.Īmy went on a romantic vacation with her husband as they were trying to rebuild their marriage. It happens sometimes and we should definitely talk about. If you're working to heal from an affair and finding that your partner (the one who strayed) does not want to do anything to increase transparency to rebuild trust, or is still talking to the affair partner, then this article is for you!įirst of all, let me say. ![]()
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